If You Don’t Know What You Want – You Will Never Get It

It was really the message during my early morning talk this past Saturday April 30^th, “If you don’t know what you want, you will never get it”.   Proudly, I was a speaker amongst many of the mentors and experts with whom I have looked up to and have personally helped my wife and me get to where we are today.

Before I go further, I really want to thank everyone at Knowledge Syndications right up to the volunteers who made me feel at home and completely respected.  Special shouts go to Kelly Lanteigne, Annie Kue & Serena Ly, they were awesome!

Kelly, Ian Szabo and Brian Persaud were instrumental in setting me up with this opportunity to live my passion & let me deliver my message in the exact context I wanted with no holds barred.   The full room saw total vulnerability from me because it was ‘what I was selling’…and that was the power of “YOU”.

Who Woulda Thought?

Three years ago, I would have never imagined sharing the stage with Don R. Campbell, Calum Ross, Brian Persaud, George E. Dubeand a host of other experts here.

It just proves the message I was driving home – it IS all about YOU and to fully understand what it is you want.

What’s important to understand is, I really didn’t know this until last summer when Philip McKernan challenged me on my true passion so, thank you Philip.  Equally, it’s important to point out that only last June was when I began to acknowledge my past with music, radio and all the major production I have done.

Why?

The truth is I wanted to disassociate from this world because of all the negativity I experienced.  I didn’t want to be accountable for my actions and what I gave up chasing the almighty dollar.  Yes, of course there were great times, but as I pointed out Saturday, most of us choose to “avoid pain” rather than “gain pleasure” when we make our decisions.

I clearly was avoiding the pain from my past to make my choice to invest in real estate.  That’s not a bad thing because I actually moved forward, but in order to be completely focused and clear about the future, I had to be accountable for my past and at the same time celebrate my accomplishments.

I rose to the top of the industry with very little support – everyone against me trying to bring me down somehow.  People pretended to like me, but spoke ill of me to others.  Screw it – I am as authentic as they come and if someone wants to judge me from what others have to say, that’s their choice.

That’s really the synopsis of how my DJ/Radio career was, people were so intertwined with others’ opinions there was no way of proving otherwise.  I tried and tried and wasted valuable energy doing so. What a way to live; shame on me for trying.

Who I Became Because of this ‘Life Tuition’

The major difference in who I am today boils down true belief, and add respect to that as well.  I rarely respected anyone in the music industry (I can count on one hand how many I respected) but today, I can’t begin to list the people I respect.  It’s because respect goes both ways and my circle of influence is truly one that supports and helps me when I need it.

I have not lost my authenticity, in fact, I have become much more authentic and vulnerable due to the positivity of these people

I don’t have to prove myself to anyone – nobody has my fate in their hands anymore;  (like I felt working for radio and music  agents) only I decide my fate.

I CHOOSE my friends based on how I live, react and give back to the world & by living free of stress.  What this means is, THEY ACTUALLY CHOOSE ME because I emit positivity, live true to the core.  The masks are long gone and those who still wear them don’t come around anymore…it’s that simple.

TO EVERYONE, THANK YOU

The heartfelt, warm comments I received after my talk  and throughout the day moved me many times…it’s just the way I tick. (heck, I even weep at weddings)

It is such a sense of achievement when you truly believe in something, in yourself, and people respond to and actually FEEL what you are talking about.

Isn’t it a coincidence that Achievement is one of my core values?

This was really the first time I publicly shared powerful  stories of how my life unfolded, both good and bad and after months of contemplating how much I should reveal, I’m glad my friends told me “just be you”.

I feel truly blessed to be able to share my life with so many of you & I plan to do it more often.

If you were at the show, I’d love to hear from you, your thoughts and suggestions.  Even if you missed it, I would still love to hear what you have to say about what you read here!