How to win respect in real estate investing

There’s a simple answer to the question “how to win respect when it comes to real estate investing.”

More often than not you will be in a business or networking environment where everyone is purely out to better them.  Think about it, can you truthfully say you show up at industry seminars, functions and the like REALLY respecting your peers, competitors and colleagues?

If you don’t, you can’t ‘force’ yourself to respect another person; you have to truly feel this emotion.

So what if you don’t feel it, HOW do you change that emotion?  You need to change YOUR CORE BEING first.  When you identify with who you are as a person, remove negativity and project positive energy in a truthful manner, people will begin to enter your life.  When that happens, you WILL have a genuine respect for them.  I’ve touched on how most of the population walks around trying to fit in by not showing their true colors or admitting vulnerability here, so the secret to changing your life begins with YOU.

BECOME who you want to attract into your life. Once YOU respect, you GET respect.

Here is a take from my life:

my long career in the music industry as a top DJ, radio personality and music producer lacked respect both FROM me and TO me ( I hope that makes literal sense).  I can count on ONE hand how many TRULY respected my talent and/or me personally.  To be honest, I didn’t particularly respect many of my associates either.  I was out for number one…ring any bells?  Was it right, wrong?  I don’t know – I lasted a long time and gained respect from KEY people that helped me advance throughout those twenty-five plus years, but when it was all over how many are still around?

So why and how did I change?  First, I changed how I was socially – my core being was always true no problem there.  I am completely vulnerable, transparent and not afraid of being misunderstood.   I took on the real estate investment arena with an open mind that I would learn from those before me without judgment, jealousy or a competitive nature, to be humble and to give back what I learn.

What transpired was a natural deep respect for my new friends, expert team members, mentors, colleagues and novice investors asking for help.

That brings up another point if you want to know how to win respect:

What about joint venture partners, people with whom you want to help?

Do you need to respect them?  I think so; looking for JUST a money partner doesn’t work for me.

In my view, I am building a relationship and plan to have them in my life for a long time.  I look for people who think like we do with the same morals, similar goals and someone we can invite to our home for dinner.  The money is the last thing I need.

HOW DOES RESPECT MAKE YOU FEEL?

Have you ever had someone initiate a slight positive forward lean to shake your hand, look you straight in the eyes with a sincere smile and say something you know is coming from their heart?

Believe me; you know it when you see and hear it.

THAT’S how to win respect.

I can immediately tell the difference between sincerity and artificial and so will you.  Receiving considerate respect from someone is unparalleled to anything else in my opinion and you must strive to do the same.

Here’s How To Win Respect

Business IS about networking and I’m not suggesting stopping if you don’t ‘respect’ someone…but when you sense a true found respect for another person, LET THEM KNOW IT.   They will feel your energy and admiration and will often return it.

This past weekend ended for me with a personal respect exchange with Don R. Campbell, Russell Westcott and Patrick Francey of the Real Estate Investment Network.  And a huge thanks to all of you not mentioned today who have shown me similar respect in the last little while! You know who you are.