It’s amazing how much we can control isn’t it?
If you think that’s crazy – think again. Because you CAN control almost 100% of everything you encounter every day.
Yea, you’re probably thinking “Joe, you’ve lost it … how can I CONTROL the world, the events and the bad crap that happens to me?”
Well, back in 1982 when I was 16 years old, I listened (on cassette tape BTW) to a man who was to become one of the world’s top motivational speakers, coaches and trainers.
You know him as Anthony Robbins.
He said something then that has stuck with me all these years:
“You can’t control the world, you can only control the way you react to it”
It was something like that – I can’t remember the exact words but you get my drift.
The point here is that YOU TOO CAN control how you react to things. The outcome may still be the same, but it’s how you respond.
Stress comes from the way you react (or not react). PERIOD.
I work with a lot of people to help them grow their businesses and stress is one of those nagging things that’s always in the way of them committing … of finishing what they’ve started.
Do you know why?
It’s because they are worried about the outcome of a problem they’ve let control them for years.
Most of the time it’s a financial stress – and with this type of stress, it’s almost impossible to ‘GROW’ anything. Hey, I get it, but remember, WE put ourselves in the positions we’re in.
This is why most people are never successful beyond what they dream. They’re always trying to ‘catch up’ and ‘get things under control first’.
On top of this, many of us let other people control us – and we sometimes do it in ways we don’t even realize
For instance, if you’re a person that ‘can’t say no’, or you don’t like confrontation, you’re probably living for other people’s agendas and carrying around their responsibilities.
This causes stress – and it’s damaging you – not them
I’m not suggesting you to stop being nice or helpful, I’m just saying it would be more helpful if you were to be a bit selfish and do things for you first. Sometimes that may mean saying “no” to the double overtime at work even though you could “use” the money, but you “need” sleep and relaxation more. Or you’re worried what the boss might say.
Tips To Eliminate Stress
The MAIN tip to eliminate stress is to quit or change professions if your job, or business is harming you. You know if it is and if so, why are you letting it continue?
The choice is yours – to trade every day away for something you hate and slowly killing you or begin to make moves right now to change the path.
Next – make a list of at LEAST 5 promises you’ve made to other people that’s causing you stress. It doesn’t matter if you can handle them or not, revoke those promises & work out alternatives with the promisee.
This final one is the toughest – identify the sources of people, expectations of others and so on that’s causing stress and eliminate them completely
You can see why this is so tough because A LOT of those sources are with family & “friends” – and if you’re constantly stressed because of it , what good are you doing for you? How long will you TOLERATE it?
For most people the answer is “a lifetime” – but they’ll never say it out loud because they keep burying it deep down !
BTW – I’m not just “preaching” this stuff – I’m livin’ it… especially the last one.
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Share your thoughts – I know you have a lot of them – what are you doing to eliminate the stress today?
Hello Joey,
Generally I should have about $50k to $60k to start investing
in real estate. This to me is a VERY high amount because i was
not expecting to have that much available.
Suppose I had that amount, why would i want to invest in real estate
when i could be able to go into a business or a franchise such as a
subway that are almost fail-proof?
Is real estate really worth getting into, what are some other options
i should consider? I am 27 years old and I am always striving to be the
very best in all aspects of life, with that being said, i really try to
become a successful person every year, just not sure if it is a better
idea to take that $60k and put it into real estate or a franchise.
What are your opinions??
Hadeer
Hi there Hadeer,
Your question is a great one and there’s no right answer. It all depends on what your lifestyle looks like and what you want to accomplish. I’ve been in business my entire life and all I can say is that creating wealth from real estate has been the best move I’ve made.
My next question would be, how do you KNOW a subway is guaranteed? I know several people who bought into franchises and have failed. All of your work goes to the franchisee (they need to get paid for their fees first) and then IF and only if you make profit after that, will you make any money.
I’m not a franchise expert, but if that’s something you are looking into and you can run your life based on the rules and regulations of everyone else , again, it’s your choice.
For me, I don’t like to be tied to anyone else’s agenda.
When it comes to real estate, I believe you need to have 50-60k to buy a decent home anywhere. Also, you need B-plans. You need reserves. You can’t just use up your last 25 or 30k and think everything is going to be cool.
Even in franchising.
Like I said, I’ve never worked for anyone, owned my businesses since I was 18 and have always needed to go back to the “piggy bank” if you know what I mean.
You say your trying the successful every year…what does that mean? What are your specific, measurable goals?
What has to happen over the next three years for you to be happy with your progress?
As I coach people, some your age, many of them twice as old, they STILL wander through life without a concrete plan. Without that plan, all you’re doing it guessing your way through life ( not you in particular, but you understand)
So, if you want to buy real estate, or own a franchise, be clear on WHY first. Do you want to double your investment in a year, two, three, five? Do you want to have a million dollars in cash in three years?
When we are clear, it’s easier to start moving to the goal and making the right decisions.
Anyone and everyone will tell you that their opportunity is the greatest. But is it right for you?
My real estate works for me because it FITS my lifestyle. I buy it for foundational wealth – it’s not something I”m using to pay my bills.
That may be important to you or someone else and it’s OK. Just know what your real estate or business is for.
For me, my passion lies in helping others build their businesses by coaching them. That means I don’t get up to fight the traffic, go open an office or a store and I get to see my kids all day long.
My advice is to plan out what you want FIRST, then go get a business that supports those wants and desires.
I hoe that kinda helps